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2007/01/09 20:14
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冯骥才
一个人就是一本书。
读人,比读其他文字写就的书更难。我认认真真地读,读了大半辈子,至今还没有读懂这本“人之书”。
有的人,在阳光明媚的日子里愿意把伞借给你.而下雨的时候,他却打伞悄悄地先走了。
——你读他时,千万别埋怨他。因为他自己不愿意被雨淋着(况且是人家的伞),也不愿意分担别人的困难,你能说什么呢?还是自己常备一把伞吧。
有的人,在你有权有势的时候,围着你团团转,而你离职了,或无权无势了,他却躲得远远的。
——你读他时,千万要理解他。因为他过去为了某种需要而赞美你,现在没有那种动力了,也就没有必要再为你吟唱什么赞美诗了。在此,你需要静下心来,先反思一下自己过去是否太轻信别人了呢?
有的人,在面对你倾诉深情的时候,语言的表述像流淌着的一条清亮、甜美的大河,而在河床的底下,却潜藏着一股污浊的暗流。
——你读他时,千万别憎恨他。固为凡是以虚伪的假面来欺骗别人的人,人前人后活得也挺难的,弄不好还会被同类的虚伪所惩罚,你应该体谅他的这种人生方式,等待他的人性的回归和自省吧。
有的人,在你辛勤播种的时候,他袖手旁观,不肯洒一滴汗水,而当你收获的时候,他却毫无愧色地以各种理由来分享你的果实。 ——你读他时,千万别反感他。固为有人肯分享你丰收的喜悦,不管他怀着什么样的心态,都应该持欢迎的态度。你做出一点牺牲,却成全了一个人的业绩欲,慢慢地,会让他学会一些自尊和自爱。
有的人,注重外表的修饰,且穿着显示出一种华贵,而内心深处却充满了空虚,充满了无知和愚昧。那种文化的形态,常常不自觉地流露在他的言语行动中。
——你读他时,千万别鄙视他。因为他不懂得服装是裁缝制作的,仅仅是货币的标志,而人的知识、品德和气质,却是一个人真正的人生价值。对于庸俗的人,你可以反现对照一下自己的行为。
读别人,其实也是在读自己。读真、读善、读美的同时,也读道貌岸然背后的伪善,也读美丽背后的丑恶,也读微笑背后的狡诈……
读人,最重要的是读懂怎样为人。
读人,是为了要做一个真正的人。
因此,读人时,要学会宽容,要学会大度,由此才能读到一些有益于自已的东西,才能读出高尚,才能读出欢乐,才能读出幸福。
尽管我还没有读完这本“人之书”,但我全一直努力从各方面去阅读。
冯骥才
一个人就是一本书。
读人,比读其他文字写就的书更难。我认认真真地读,读了大半辈子,至今还没有读懂这本“人之书”。
有的人,在阳光明媚的日子里愿意把伞借给你.而下雨的时候,他却打伞悄悄地先走了。
——你读他时,千万别埋怨他。因为他自己不愿意被雨淋着(况且是人家的伞),也不愿意分担别人的困难,你能说什么呢?还是自己常备一把伞吧。
有的人,在你有权有势的时候,围着你团团转,而你离职了,或无权无势了,他却躲得远远的。
——你读他时,千万要理解他。因为他过去为了某种需要而赞美你,现在没有那种动力了,也就没有必要再为你吟唱什么赞美诗了。在此,你需要静下心来,先反思一下自己过去是否太轻信别人了呢?
有的人,在面对你倾诉深情的时候,语言的表述像流淌着的一条清亮、甜美的大河,而在河床的底下,却潜藏着一股污浊的暗流。
——你读他时,千万别憎恨他。固为凡是以虚伪的假面来欺骗别人的人,人前人后活得也挺难的,弄不好还会被同类的虚伪所惩罚,你应该体谅他的这种人生方式,等待他的人性的回归和自省吧。
有的人,在你辛勤播种的时候,他袖手旁观,不肯洒一滴汗水,而当你收获的时候,他却毫无愧色地以各种理由来分享你的果实。 ——你读他时,千万别反感他。固为有人肯分享你丰收的喜悦,不管他怀着什么样的心态,都应该持欢迎的态度。你做出一点牺牲,却成全了一个人的业绩欲,慢慢地,会让他学会一些自尊和自爱。
有的人,注重外表的修饰,且穿着显示出一种华贵,而内心深处却充满了空虚,充满了无知和愚昧。那种文化的形态,常常不自觉地流露在他的言语行动中。
——你读他时,千万别鄙视他。因为他不懂得服装是裁缝制作的,仅仅是货币的标志,而人的知识、品德和气质,却是一个人真正的人生价值。对于庸俗的人,你可以反现对照一下自己的行为。
读别人,其实也是在读自己。读真、读善、读美的同时,也读道貌岸然背后的伪善,也读美丽背后的丑恶,也读微笑背后的狡诈……
读人,最重要的是读懂怎样为人。
读人,是为了要做一个真正的人。
因此,读人时,要学会宽容,要学会大度,由此才能读到一些有益于自已的东西,才能读出高尚,才能读出欢乐,才能读出幸福。
尽管我还没有读完这本“人之书”,但我全一直努力从各方面去阅读。
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评论
本来人就是一个很复杂的动物,何必又要读懂呢

就那样顺其自然,不是很好嘛
又何必那么较劲.......
做自己
永远不要想别人是怎样的,让别人去猜你
这样会显得你很特别,其实你已经很特别了.......
真善美,永远是最美好的
假恶丑,也不是没有它一定的道理
只是做得刚刚好,人这种东西是要用一辈子去感受的
也许有的人一辈子都不会理解其中的含义
所以呢,就这样做自己,也许再过些年
你就会觉得,这些没什么了
其实真的什么也没什么,只是
有的时候自己在乎了不该在乎的东西
画画的人长寿,因为他们会在画里面去释放自己的不满
画,画完了,自己也释放的过了
那时候也就解脱了
不满的东西也随之而去,多好
想开了,就好了
还是那句话,做自己!
我也不知道我干嘛写这些东西给你,既然写了
随便看看吧
2007/02/04 03:37
感慨之后要做的 和怎么做是关键 老师只是启引导作用
2007/05/31 00:20
说的有道理.
2008/03/20 09:29